I started gym this semester (ew) and my gym teacher made a huge deal about how we need to lock our stuff up.
Yes, of course we need to lock our stuff up. It's common sense.
But the teacher went on and on about how if we get stuff stolen "it's all our fault" and she "will have no sympathy." Never ONCE was there a mention of "Hey! Don't steal! It's a crime!"
Similarly, I see constant magazine articles about the dangers of sexting, advising girls never to send inappropriate photos. Once again, sending inappropriate photos? Common sense! However, I've NEVER seen anything that told guys not to spread around the pictures. We hear countless stories about how girls got their reputation damaged due to one leaked photo. The story is about the girl and what she did, not about the guy that leaked it.
To add to that, girls are always told to be careful at parties. In health class, we get warned that "guys might put something in your drink and take advantage of you!" But why isn't the teacher also telling the guys not to treat girls horribly?
There's all this talk of precaution everywhere, but adolescents are never taught the basics anymore. I feel like the message from society isn't "don't kidnap people," it's "carry pepper spray."
Of course I will lock up my stuff, not send inappropriate photos, and be careful at parties. It's common sense.
But as much as young people need to be cautioned to do these things, someone needs to be telling the perpetrators of these crimes that what they're doing is NOT ok. You'd think that people would know that stealing isn't ok, but when emphasis is put on the person getting stolen from, then it distracts from the stealer and they don't feel so bad. We need to approach these types of crimes from both ends of the perspective. Hopefully, then, locking up your stuff AND not stealing will BOTH be regarded as common sense.
Instead of teaching people to hide from crime, why don't we teach people not to be criminals?